Members article
By Jane Verity © dementiacareinternational
Praise and encouragement are the greatest gifts you can give to another person. When you praise a person with dementia, you must think of them as an adult and an equal whom you respect. Before you even speak, what you think is what you will show.
Non-verbal communication gives your words meaning and shows the other person what you really think about them. This makes up 93% of your communication so it is critically important to remember two simple rules:
- It’s not what you say but the way that you say it!
- It’s not what you do but the way that you do it!
The best approach to successful praise is to think of the other person as a friend whom you respect and hold in high regard. This ensure the words or sentences you choose will automatically convey the right meaning and boost the self-esteem of the person with dementia.
Here are some great ideas on what you can say and do to praise a person with dementia.
- A round of applause is always positive and ensures the person with dementia feels they deserve it.
- Remember, always start your praise by using the person’s name.
- Avoid the phrase, ‘Well done!’ and instead say, ‘You did extremely well’ followed by a sentence that describes the reason. For example, if during an activity you wish to praise a participant you could say, ‘John, you did extremely well. You just scored your highest points so far!’ Then give them a round of applause.
- Human qualities are often the best things to focus on for praise. For example, ‘Ida, you have the best smile and your wonderful beaming face truly makes my day.’
- Be genuine and specific in your praise. For example, ‘George, the way you always find the good and beautiful in everything makes you a very special person. We are so honored to be in your company.’
- Praise can be a thank you, remember be specific and give a reason. For example, ‘Anna, thank you so much for giving me a hand with the dishes. You have helped me and now I can get the rest of the things done without any stress. Thank you.’